It’s one thing to disagree with your mama-in-law or your girlfriends about
how to raise your child, but it’s a whole other ballgame if you and your husband aren’t on the same page. Stressful situations such as sleep training can exacerbate differing approaches between the two of you and create serious friction. The man you thought was rational and had views similar to yours can suddenly seem like a stranger. When you find yourself disagreeing with your husband, try to keep several things in mind:
This is the just the beginning of a long list of instances when the two of you will disagree on how to approach raising your child (think house rules, curfews, discipline methods, not to mention car keys. . .). Now is the time to learn how to constructively talk through your different approaches in order to find a middle ground that you’re both comfortable with – and more importantly – that you can both stick to. Even if you know you’re right (and we all know mamas usually are!) make a serious effort to try to understand why dad feels the way he does.
There is no one right way to do things. Even if you spend the majority of time with the baby and feel like you know her best, keep an open mind when your husband has an opinion. You may or may not end up changing your point of view, but he’ll feel more valued because you listened.
Try to talk when you're both awake (and coherent), and at a time with minimized emotional stress (i.e., not in the middle of the night when baby is keeping you up and you're both testy!)
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